The Value of Empathy
My dictionary defines “empathy” as: The ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
This is a crucial and important ability for anyone who works with people – like doctors, dentists, psychotherapists, psychiatrists, counsellors and the like. For without empathy such people would be unable to help or understand their patient’s or client’s needs.
A good mediator needs empathy – in assisting opposing parties to negotiate.
Empathy also has a much broader application – in the sense of wanting to understand why other people think what they think and do what they do. And if one values peace amongst people, such empathy is a much-needed and unfortunately in-short-supply commodity.
Empathy could also be defined as “walking in another’s shoes” – or using one’s imagination to put yourself into the life and thinking of another person.
Empathy can also be extended to trying to understand different cultures – that mix of national “habits” that has survived time and become entrenched in the thinking of different ethnic groups.
One of the things that exasperates me, regarding the state of international politics, is the complete lack of empathy in dealing with other nations.
Take this latest round of escalation regarding Iran – and the recent censure by the IAEA and its demand that Iran cease uranium enrichment. This arose from frustration amongst the major powers with Iran’s refusal to agree to the proposal to swap existing enriched uranium stocks for higher enriched uranium.
Iran’s position is that it does not trust the west to honour such an agreement, and counter-suggested that such swaps occur in real-time and that existing stocks of Iran’s own uranium remain on Iranian soil – under guard by the IAEA.
But the major powers are having none of it! No, instead they are escalating the issue by the politically motivated latest censure by the IAEA. Then the Iranian leadership immediately announced they are to build 10 further enrichment plants – an “in your face” response if there ever was one.
However, if you put yourself in Iran’s position for a few minutes, it’s not hard to see why they react this way. And if the west was truly interested in “opening a new door” in relations with Iran, then it would have taken Iran’s concerns about “not trusting the West” seriously, and come to a workable compromise.
The truth is, the major powers want to push Iran into a corner – not have normal relations at all. And lack of empathy is the hallmark of such nation-state behaviour.
Our global political leadership is filled with psychopaths and narcissists – and one common trait of such people is lack of empathy. The whole political class is contaminated by this same lack – and via the media taps into the very real lack of empathy that exists amongst ordinary people.
The end result is the division of the world into “us” and “them” – and never the twain shall meet.
The easiest way the test your own empathy for any situation is to imagine yourself in the other’s shoes – to literally imagine how you would feel and act if you were on the receiving end.
Example: Imagine if Iran were to be demanding that the USA cease all uranium enrichment – and that it hand over its existing stockpile to Pakistan for further enrichment. Then imagine if Iran were to threaten global sanctions on the USA for non-compliance.
I’m sure you can easily the imagine how the US government would react!
Warmongering is the name of the game, and this latest round of escalation is headed straight for war, unless saner minds prevail. But I’m not holding my breath.
Welcome to the endgame of the political nation state – war at home and war abroad!

